"Good news! Im engaged! We're targeting April 10, 2010 as our wedding date.:) please save that date. Uwi ka ha... sabihin mo sa kin kung makauwi ka. See you!"
Got this email yesterday from one of my closest friend. I’m happy to hear the news but half of it I feel sad. Yes, another friend of yours will be sharing her life with someone and the bad news is- here you are all alone and sitting in your lonely chair- blogging!
Alone.
Let me share to all of you my image of loneliness on my routine f*cking life. Well, when I'm home after work I manage somehow to find the front door. I coordinate keys and keyhole so it opens. I head straight for the fridge, drink cold water, open the TV, then afterwards go to bed, defiantly attempt to read a book, then give up and close my eyes.
I am thinking.
Got this email yesterday from one of my closest friend. I’m happy to hear the news but half of it I feel sad. Yes, another friend of yours will be sharing her life with someone and the bad news is- here you are all alone and sitting in your lonely chair- blogging!
Alone.
Let me share to all of you my image of loneliness on my routine f*cking life. Well, when I'm home after work I manage somehow to find the front door. I coordinate keys and keyhole so it opens. I head straight for the fridge, drink cold water, open the TV, then afterwards go to bed, defiantly attempt to read a book, then give up and close my eyes.
I am thinking.
What's wrong with me? Why can't I find someone to love? Why is everyone attached? I should never have got rid of X. Why am I too fussy? Am I intimidating? I wonder why the sky's blue and the grass is green? Should I have cereals for breakfast or bacon and eggs? It's around then I fall asleep.
This is what usually happens to me when I'm in one of those down and depressed single phases and get asked somewhere which sounds full of promise. The reason for revealing straight up how pathetic I can be is twofold. One: You, like me, will never meet anyone when you're desperate to meet someone. Two: before I launch into telling you how fabulous singlehood can be, I want to acknowledge that I know it’s sometimes a very lonely place.
Everyone feels down in the dumps sometimes because they're alone. It's normal. We've all done our fair share of pillow drenching after a night out where we'd hoped to meet someone special and didn't.
This is what usually happens to me when I'm in one of those down and depressed single phases and get asked somewhere which sounds full of promise. The reason for revealing straight up how pathetic I can be is twofold. One: You, like me, will never meet anyone when you're desperate to meet someone. Two: before I launch into telling you how fabulous singlehood can be, I want to acknowledge that I know it’s sometimes a very lonely place.
Everyone feels down in the dumps sometimes because they're alone. It's normal. We've all done our fair share of pillow drenching after a night out where we'd hoped to meet someone special and didn't.
Yes, being single sucks!
But wait, let's look at things from a different perspective. Let's balance it up a little. One thing that never fails to jolt me back to reality when I'm in the midst of single blues is to recall the other pillow-drenching sessions of my life- when I've been in a relationship but was desperately unhappy. That felt just as bad - if not worse. When you're down and single, being part of a couple seems so appealing. When you're attached and miserable, being single seems so appealing. There are pluses and minuses to both.
According to author Tracy Cox, the happier you are single, the more chance you have of finding the relationship of your dreams. Energy, enthusiasm, sheer love of life- that's what people find attractive. It's got little to do with looks, money or what car you drive. What it has got a lot to do with is how much you like yourself. If you look in the mirror and see a nice, attractive person with lots to offer the world, people will see you that way too. If you don't like yourself, no-one else will.
And there's another reason why moping around won't get you anywhere- people who think their life will truly start when they find a mate are usually the ones most disappointed by love.
Hmmm. It's simple really. Happy singles are people who feel good about themselves, who don't see a relationship as the source of all happiness, and are clear on what they want from one and what kind of person they'd like to have one with. And happy singles are the people who get dates!
Date for Coldman? Anyone?
Yeah, right!
But would it be fair if I say that I’m not desperate but I’m hopeful?
Sigh
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But wait, let's look at things from a different perspective. Let's balance it up a little. One thing that never fails to jolt me back to reality when I'm in the midst of single blues is to recall the other pillow-drenching sessions of my life- when I've been in a relationship but was desperately unhappy. That felt just as bad - if not worse. When you're down and single, being part of a couple seems so appealing. When you're attached and miserable, being single seems so appealing. There are pluses and minuses to both.
According to author Tracy Cox, the happier you are single, the more chance you have of finding the relationship of your dreams. Energy, enthusiasm, sheer love of life- that's what people find attractive. It's got little to do with looks, money or what car you drive. What it has got a lot to do with is how much you like yourself. If you look in the mirror and see a nice, attractive person with lots to offer the world, people will see you that way too. If you don't like yourself, no-one else will.
And there's another reason why moping around won't get you anywhere- people who think their life will truly start when they find a mate are usually the ones most disappointed by love.
Hmmm. It's simple really. Happy singles are people who feel good about themselves, who don't see a relationship as the source of all happiness, and are clear on what they want from one and what kind of person they'd like to have one with. And happy singles are the people who get dates!
Date for Coldman? Anyone?
Yeah, right!
But would it be fair if I say that I’m not desperate but I’m hopeful?
Sigh
Since, I was inspired by these news I suddenly felt the urge of eating dilis on my breakfast! Lol!
This is the only replica of the Forbidden City and Terra Cotta soldiers outside China. But there really isn't anything spectacular about this place.... the "replicas" can be found at any Chinese restaurant (P.F Changs!)
Forgive me, but I wasn't also listening to our tour guide since I was busy taking photos (which I'm more interested). Anyway, it's just so calming being there and I just loved the Texas weather!
