"Good news! Im engaged! We're targeting April 10, 2010 as our wedding date.:) please save that date. Uwi ka ha... sabihin mo sa kin kung makauwi ka. See you!"
Got this email yesterday from one of my closest friend. I’m happy to hear the news but half of it I feel sad. Yes, another friend of yours will be sharing her life with someone and the bad news is- here you are all alone and sitting in your lonely chair- blogging!
Alone.
Let me share to all of you my image of loneliness on my routine f*cking life. Well, when I'm home after work I manage somehow to find the front door. I coordinate keys and keyhole so it opens. I head straight for the fridge, drink cold water, open the TV, then afterwards go to bed, defiantly attempt to read a book, then give up and close my eyes.
I am thinking.
Got this email yesterday from one of my closest friend. I’m happy to hear the news but half of it I feel sad. Yes, another friend of yours will be sharing her life with someone and the bad news is- here you are all alone and sitting in your lonely chair- blogging!
Alone.
Let me share to all of you my image of loneliness on my routine f*cking life. Well, when I'm home after work I manage somehow to find the front door. I coordinate keys and keyhole so it opens. I head straight for the fridge, drink cold water, open the TV, then afterwards go to bed, defiantly attempt to read a book, then give up and close my eyes.
I am thinking.
What's wrong with me? Why can't I find someone to love? Why is everyone attached? I should never have got rid of X. Why am I too fussy? Am I intimidating? I wonder why the sky's blue and the grass is green? Should I have cereals for breakfast or bacon and eggs? It's around then I fall asleep.
This is what usually happens to me when I'm in one of those down and depressed single phases and get asked somewhere which sounds full of promise. The reason for revealing straight up how pathetic I can be is twofold. One: You, like me, will never meet anyone when you're desperate to meet someone. Two: before I launch into telling you how fabulous singlehood can be, I want to acknowledge that I know it’s sometimes a very lonely place.
Everyone feels down in the dumps sometimes because they're alone. It's normal. We've all done our fair share of pillow drenching after a night out where we'd hoped to meet someone special and didn't.
This is what usually happens to me when I'm in one of those down and depressed single phases and get asked somewhere which sounds full of promise. The reason for revealing straight up how pathetic I can be is twofold. One: You, like me, will never meet anyone when you're desperate to meet someone. Two: before I launch into telling you how fabulous singlehood can be, I want to acknowledge that I know it’s sometimes a very lonely place.
Everyone feels down in the dumps sometimes because they're alone. It's normal. We've all done our fair share of pillow drenching after a night out where we'd hoped to meet someone special and didn't.
Yes, being single sucks!
But wait, let's look at things from a different perspective. Let's balance it up a little. One thing that never fails to jolt me back to reality when I'm in the midst of single blues is to recall the other pillow-drenching sessions of my life- when I've been in a relationship but was desperately unhappy. That felt just as bad - if not worse. When you're down and single, being part of a couple seems so appealing. When you're attached and miserable, being single seems so appealing. There are pluses and minuses to both.
According to author Tracy Cox, the happier you are single, the more chance you have of finding the relationship of your dreams. Energy, enthusiasm, sheer love of life- that's what people find attractive. It's got little to do with looks, money or what car you drive. What it has got a lot to do with is how much you like yourself. If you look in the mirror and see a nice, attractive person with lots to offer the world, people will see you that way too. If you don't like yourself, no-one else will.
And there's another reason why moping around won't get you anywhere- people who think their life will truly start when they find a mate are usually the ones most disappointed by love.
Hmmm. It's simple really. Happy singles are people who feel good about themselves, who don't see a relationship as the source of all happiness, and are clear on what they want from one and what kind of person they'd like to have one with. And happy singles are the people who get dates!
Date for Coldman? Anyone?
Yeah, right!
But would it be fair if I say that I’m not desperate but I’m hopeful?
Sigh
But wait, let's look at things from a different perspective. Let's balance it up a little. One thing that never fails to jolt me back to reality when I'm in the midst of single blues is to recall the other pillow-drenching sessions of my life- when I've been in a relationship but was desperately unhappy. That felt just as bad - if not worse. When you're down and single, being part of a couple seems so appealing. When you're attached and miserable, being single seems so appealing. There are pluses and minuses to both.
According to author Tracy Cox, the happier you are single, the more chance you have of finding the relationship of your dreams. Energy, enthusiasm, sheer love of life- that's what people find attractive. It's got little to do with looks, money or what car you drive. What it has got a lot to do with is how much you like yourself. If you look in the mirror and see a nice, attractive person with lots to offer the world, people will see you that way too. If you don't like yourself, no-one else will.
And there's another reason why moping around won't get you anywhere- people who think their life will truly start when they find a mate are usually the ones most disappointed by love.
Hmmm. It's simple really. Happy singles are people who feel good about themselves, who don't see a relationship as the source of all happiness, and are clear on what they want from one and what kind of person they'd like to have one with. And happy singles are the people who get dates!
Date for Coldman? Anyone?
Yeah, right!
But would it be fair if I say that I’m not desperate but I’m hopeful?
Sigh
24 comments:
madami akong kilalang dapat magbasa nitong post na ito..
hehe..
okay lang yan coldman, di lang ikaw nag-iisang single sa mundo.
ano ba hanap mong kadate? traits baga.
It was just the other day when I realized that after almost a year, ngayon ko lang nae-enjoy ang pagiging single. Haha. :)
May moments talaga na ganyan pero just fave fun. Before you know it, you'll have someone to share the fun times with.
Parang ang agang Valentine's post na 'to ah. :P
nice post! tumpak na tumpak.
Sabi nga ni Pareng Gillboard sa isang post niya, hindi naman ang pagkakaroon ng lovelife ang purpose mo kaya ka nabubuhay sa mundong ibabaw. Saka naman baka masyado kang choosy. Babaan mo kasi standards mo. *LOLz* = P
You’re only half as happy as you’d want yourself to be. Tama ka, being single has its pluses and minuses. And so is being attached. Coming from a person who’s been down in the dumps, I think I would rather go out on “meaningless” dates than be in a “seemingly serious” relationship only to find out in the end that it’s just a waste of time. (Hehehe.. oo na, bitter na kung bitter). I realized it feels good being single (after 7 yrs of not being)
Tanong lang, how often do you go on dates ba? Baka naman tama si GD, choosy ka yata masyado? Kungsabagay, may German na siya, minus points sa credibility (Juk lang GD!)
You’ve got to make your own happiness. =)
Being single is actually an opportunity to grow and mature.Lol!
i always like your writings. i can feel you in this blog. its like me talking to myself. :(
oks lang maging hopeful kuya!
siguro mas ramdam mo yung situation kasi nandyan ka.
bata ka pa naman kuya e. try mo magbakasyon dito sa pinas. for sure madaming pipila at magpapass ng resume. hehehr
tama sila kuya, just have fun! and eventually, sa time na hindi mo ineexpect darating yun.
i thought youre the one
whos engaged
when i saw the first sentence
in my feed!
LOL
kinabahan ako for a moment
:)
single din ako
kaya magtigil ka na diyan
hahahaha
.xienahgirl
ill go on a date with you...
tangina same situation, same feeling...same agony(?)
pero tindi ng pressure...admit it! hehehe
E masosolve ba yang problema mo kung palagi ka na lang nageemote sa blog?
Wala talagang magiiba sa buhay kung ang mga ginagawa naman natin e pareho sa dating gawi.
For one, may magkakagusto ba sayo kung hindi naman alam kung ano ang pagmumukha mo? Mas kilala pa namin si Baby Bronson kesa sayo sa dami ng picture nya dito. ;P
now I'm crying...
... and where is the cheeky, chipper, camera-toting coldman i read whenever i find myself lost in this blog eh? he seems to be taking a break and in his place is a moping, long-faced bachelor. hmmm....
you know what's called with what you're feeling? it's called "peer pressure". :-)
You should watch this!
Ikaw naalala ko when I watched it
http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=46809763745&ref=nf
grabe kuya, tagal ko di visit dito and pagiging single pa ang entry mo hahaha.. anyway, im happy being single though it could be really lonely sometimes but, the hell, i still don't want to let go of my freedom because of feeling down once in a while pero mamaya iiyak din ako hahaha. la lang kuya. misyu!! :)
kung pupuntahan kita dyan, ide-date mo ko?
seryosong offer. :)
hehe!
Happy singles don't see a relationship as the source of all happiness. So true! Apir tayo diyan!
ako bakit ako ayaw mo idate?
hmmm... Maybe you are trying too hard? Maybe when you meet someone/ introduced to someone, you pressure yourself, hoping that would be it?
Have you tried putting your number in Dates Hotlines? or even just in those "Single Guys for Single ladies" newspaper sections?
hmmm.. maybe the answer is in friendster afterall?
"Happy singles are people who feel good about themselves, who don't see a relationship as the source of all happiness, and are clear on what they want from one and what kind of person they'd like to have one with. And happy singles are the people who get dates!"
You said it right parekoy. As if, I have said/written these very words myself.
Nice read... :D
weeeeeeeeee. . .ayos. gusto ko to!! ayos ayos. . .
nice post... nawili na ko nasahin ang blog na ito dahil nakakarelate ako... ahahaha...
at nakakaaliw mga comments...
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